Archive for January, 2009

General Health

Saturday, January 17th, 2009

Fact #5: Satisfying Sex Is Important to Your General Health When men feel sexually healthy and satisfi ed, men walk tall. Our sexual feelings, emotional well-being, confi dence in the world, and even our physical health are essentially intertwined. On the other hand, a man who is troubled with his sexuality is at risk for low self-esteem, irritability, anxiety, and even physical illness. Th is interrelationship is an important reason that sexual dysfunction is considered both a psychological and a medical concern. Th e mind–body connection is valid.

Fact #6: Satisfying Sex Involves Lovemaking Skills Good sex is more than performing as a “stud.” Healthy physical conditioning, realistic psychological thinking, emotional health, and interpersonal cooperation for mutual pleasure are all part of good psychosexual (lovemaking) skills. While procreation may be biologically natural, satisfying lovemaking skills are not automatic but are developed through healthy attitudes, behaviors, and emotional intimacy. You can develop comfort and confi dence with psychosexual skills and strengthen your desire, arousal, and orgasm response.

Viagra Myth

Saturday, January 10th, 2009

Fact: Even men who absolutely love sex and are very healthy and sexually active, aren’t always in the mood, and don’t always want to get into the mood. Sometimes they just have other things on their minds. And while sex can be an important and satisfying part of life, there are other things that are also important and satisfying, even to guys. Lack of interest in sex is actually very common among both men and women for many reasons, but often related to the distractions, pressures, and stresses of everyday life. While we have come to accept that women have a right to say “no” to sex, we sometimes deny men this same right by expecting them to be “sex machines.” They’re not.

Myth 13: If a man has an erection, he is ready for sex. Fact: Men develop erections in non-sexual situations. Erections occur during normal, nightly REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleeping patterns. These erections are not related to erotic dreams, although erotic dreams may be involved. Men can also be with a partner and have an erection without thinking sexual thoughts.

Myth 14: If a man can’t get an erection, it is because he doesn’t find his partner attractive. Fact: Some young men can raise instant erections. But as they get older, men develop a list of conditions that need to be met before they can become erect; for example: privacy, relaxation, emotional closeness with the woman, no interruptions and specific types of sexual stimulation. Men’s belief that they’re supposed to be ever-ready sex machines causes stress and deflates erection.

Myth 15: A man should always be able to delay his orgasm during intercourse until his partner is satisfied. Fact: Simply put, no. This is not always possible, nor necessary. There are other ways to pleasure, or ‘finish’ your partner, but knowing your partner will best guide you in this issue.